With today’s interview, we [officially] commemorate a successful transition into Autumn; as well as conclude this series, Entering Autumn. For the last five weeks, New York Gal has released interviews with some of the most notable upcoming advisors in wellness, be it physical, spiritual, creative & now, mental. Perhaps the most recognizable sector of wellness; today’s interview is with a mental health advocate, author, podcaster, and poet Patience Tamarra, Known for her comforting, yet strong online presence, Ms. Tamarra is known for sharing her thoughts and feelings about everyday life. In today’s interview, we got the chance to speak with her about what’s influenced her perspectives on life, turning traumas into triumph, and much more.
Full interview below.
Before we begin, would you like the opportunity to introduce yourself?
Of course! I’m Patience Tamarra, a writer/poet, published author, community builder, intuitive healer, yogi and self-love advocate. I am also the creator and host of Healing Together. Podcast — a virtual community space to assist you on your journey back home to Self. I use my words and social media presence to help others ignite the healer within themselves and live more consciously and freely!
I found your platform through a video you released called ‘Love & Light‘. At the time, we’d been at the height of the pandemic and well as the start of several injustice movements. As a person, life was understandably overwhelming; but do you remember how life felt as a creator?
It’s so crazy to think back to the beginning of all of this. I remember feeling a lot of heaviness. A heaviness that I never really felt before and couldn’t really figure out how to navigate; so I did a lot of meditating and writing. I could just feel the intensity and fear of the collective and it frightened me. [I remember] having to take several social media breaks during that time because of all the videos, perspectives and just energy that I was absorbing everyday. I think that’s what prompted the video. [I felt] like the message I was given by Spirit was one that we all needed to hear — a message filled with hope and inspiration.
Since this time, we’ve faced several situations where there’s been a collective sigh or moment of grief; and you’ve always approached these situations with a sense of hope. Is this [outlook on life] something you’ve always had or is it something you grew into?
I’ve always tried to take a grounded optimistic approach to life. By that I mean I don’t try to ignore or discredit the present reality, but I [always] try to see the good and positive in situations. Don’t get me wrong though, when it feels like there is no good or positivity to spread I speak very candidly on feeling through those moments; because they come with important lessons just the same.
One of the most notable things to come out of this time was your podcast Healing Together. Did you always plan on releasing a podcast; or did you feel like the times called for something of that nature?
A podcast was always something that I knew I would eventually create. The timing just happened so perfectly. I’ve always wanted to have a platform where I could openly share the pitfalls, rises and in between of my healing journey; and a podcast just allowed me to do that organically
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I’ve always felt that its title “Healing Together” was very fitting; especially because you’ve always spoken on the importance of community. When it comes to social media, who keeps your mental wellness in-tact? Who do you find your community in?
Absolutely! I have always loved Alex Elle’s Instagram (@alex_elle) because there is always something there that I need; [I always] feel so seen and affirmed through her posts and words. [I also love people like] @thevicstyles and @the.holistic.psychologist among many others. [In general] I love following dope women who talk openly about their healing.
Another very big feat you accomplished last year was the release of your debut book Dear, Self. What was the process of creating this book like?
The process of creating Dear Self, was extremely empowering for me. I really didn’t think too much about it. One night I woke up out of my sleep with the title, concept and the first few pages of the book already in my head. It was as if Spirit gifted me with it and instead of ignoring it or denouncing it, I just went with it. Honestly, it was easy to create because it was everything that I needed at the time. Every gentle reminder and affirmation you see on its pages helped me get out of a very dark and lonely place. I’m so grateful that it’s doing the same for others now!
Outside of your podcast, you also work as a mentor for those interested in learning more about mental wellness. Can you explain what is involved in this mentorship?
The 1:1 Mentorship I offer is a 4 week journey into the most authentic, deepest layer of your being. We all have this beautiful divine guidance we call our intuition or inner voice that many of us feel so disconnected and detached from; but it is the very thing (and only thing) that can lead us to the life we desire to live. Within the 4 week period I teach some beautiful methods to balance and ground your energy, connect to that inner voice and harness your inherent sacred power. You’ll learn some of my favorite spiritual practices like meditation, scripting, embodiment movement, and so on. It’s designed for anyone who is interested in becoming more spiritually connected but is unsure of where to begin.
Because you are involved in such an energy driven industry; do you experience moments of burnout; and if you do, how do you get through these moments?
I have absolutely experienced many moments of burnout and exhaustion. I’m actually just coming out of that space now to be completely honest. Choosing and being chosen to do this work is an honor, but at times it can be depleting if you don’t take the time to replenish and reset. It’s all about balance. I’m a giver by nature. I have always been that way, but now I’m realizing the importance of giving from overflow meaning I can’t give from a full cup because that fullness is for me to enjoy. I can only give when my cup is overflowing. That way I’m not taking anything from myself.
As you know, this series is rooted in providing tips and tricks for the community as we settle into Autumn. Are there any tips you’ve been following & can recommend?
My biggest tip is to simply rest. There is so much stigma surrounding rest and laziness that pushes us into this state of toxic hustle; that is causing intense stress and exhaustion in our bodies. Just take your time, listen to your body and REST when you feel called to.
I appreciate you for taking the time to speak with our platform and we wish you nothing but success. Is there anything you would like to tell your supporters?
Thank you so much for allowing me to be a part of what you all are creating in this space! I am so honored and grateful. To everyone who reads this I just want you to know and remember that you deserve love from you, so start there.
To learn more about Patience Tamarra, check out her website https://www.patiencetamarra.com/ . Here, you can purchase her book Dear, Self, connect with her on social platforms, seek mental wellness tips & services, and more!