There is no better R&R than taking time for yourself – preferably in bed with a vibrator. And what better way to enhance your “me” time than with a little pornography. But not everyone finds pornography comfortable, so here are some easy ways to get started if you are shy, so you can find the best porn movies for you.
If you are looking at porn to help with your long distance relationship, check out this article for other advice.
Softcore
Adjusting to pornography presents difficulties for those who are shy, so start at the beginning. Softcore porn cuts out right before the money shot, and therefore can still be used for commercial purposes. It lessens some of the more aggressive aspects of pornography. So try this compilation from Pornhub to get started.
Storyline
Porn that instantly has a dick in the vagina in the first ten seconds, without any explanation as to why, troubles some women. Therefore porn with a storyline can help round out the edges of your sexual fantasy and help you immerse yourself. Many of the best porn movies start with a storyline.
Friends to lover
Have you ever had that friend that you were absolutely in love with, but you were just friends? Friends to lovers porn can bolster your fantasy of banging that hot friend you totally fancy. Bellessa is a porn website that makes videos for women by women, and can help you find a high quality start to your sexual adventure.
Cute stranger
Almost every rom com ever taught us to love this fantasy. Who doesn’t dream of meeting a handsome stranger on the street and falling madly in love? Or in this instance maybe not love, but lust.
Hentai
Hentai seems a bit extreme for new comers, but can actually be quite beneficial. If you are someone who is bothered by how obviously fake porn appears (from the over the top moaning to the bad acting) hentai might be right for you. As animation it is removed from reality, so many of the over the top aspects of pornography become believable. That beautiful woman having ten orgasms from a handsome stranger suddenly seems plausible. Don’t believe me? Just try it.
BDSM
Being shy does not mean you hide from kink. Maybe you like to dominate or be dominated, or maybe you’ve just thought about it. Watching BDSM can awaken you to a new world of pleasure.
Compilation
Long storylines are not the perfect fit for everyone, maybe you get frustrated with the background knowledge and just want to see someone get pounded for 30 minutes. If that’s the case, compilation videos are great. You can find an hour of short clips of anything you might desire: missionary, anal, oral etc.
Erotica
If you don’t want to watch it, read it. Everyone responds to their five senses differently, and many women prefer reading erotic fiction, allowing them to create some of the fantasy in their own heads. Some great websites to get you started in reading (and maybe one day writing) erotic fiction are Literotica, Adult Fanfiction, or Nifty. These websites offer great ways to explore your sexual desires through reading.
Girl on Girl
This one goes out to the Women who Love Women (WLW) out there, or even girls who thought about experimenting but are too afraid to try on their own yet. You deserve some girl on girl action in this heteronormative world. Try this one from Bellessa.
Masturbation
Masturbation porn teaches you what you may like if you’re not sure yourself. It can be a great learning tool for discovering yourself (if you know what I mean). It’s more than educational, it’s fun, and can be a huge turn on.
Guided Masturbation
Sometimes the best porn movie is not a movie at all.
Having trouble getting yourself off? Try listening to a guided masturbation. It’s similar to a guided meditation but for your lady parts. These walk you through how to achieve orgasm, while giving you the sexual and emotional confidence to get there.
To get yourself started, Devlin Wylde is an erotica writer who also narrates guided masterbations.
Oral
Sometimes we all need a little personalized attention (isn’t that why we are looking for the best porn movies in the first place?). Watching oral is a great way to put your pleasure first and watch the things you enjoy the most while someone else does the work.
Male Masterbation
If you like men and love watching your partner get turned on this is a great one for you. There is nothing like watching someone have a little in with themselves.
Trans and NonBinary
Let’s not forget our sisters who might not always be our cis-ters. Trans and non-binary pornography are great ways to experiment with your own concepts of gender identity within a sexual construct. The important thing to remember with gender bending pornography is that trans and non-binary individuals are not a fetish, so please participate with respect. Pink Label is a site that creates independent queer porn and is perfect for finding videos within that category.
Get the App
Masturbation apps are a great way to get you started on your sexual adventure. OMGYes contains video tutorials to teach you the different ways to pleasure yourself. This app also comes with touch screen tutorials so you can learn the actual motions for getting yourself off. La Petite Mort, or the small death, is the french term for the feeling after orgasm, or in this instance a masturbation app. This app plays you music and simulations to put you in a good place. Warning for iPhone users: Apple took down this app from the Apple store, but if you have an Android go at it.
If you cant another alternative for pornography, look into the best ways you can sext to get your self off here.
(Just the) Tips!
Use headphones if you have a roommate or are in anyway worried about someone overhearing you.
Remember that orgasm is not always the end result of a sexual act, and you are valid no matter how your body reacts.
Diversity and inclusivity are important within the porn industry, and it’s important to support pornography that supports marginalized individuals.
Toys can help! I highly recommend a vibrator or dildo to enhance your experience, but using your hand works too.
The best porn movies are out there waiting for you, it is your job to go and watch.
Have fun!
