There is no denying we’d all like to incorporate a little more oral into our sex lives. I mean who doesn’t love seeing their partner’s head between their legs as they make you squirm with pleasure?
Unfortunately, we get caught up in the day-to-day sex routine of late-night quickies before bed, random drunk hook-ups, and performing the same positions that we know just “work”.
But, here at NYgal, we think oral is really important for not only our Vs, but their Ds, and also for the best overall relationship with our partners.
So, here are the reasons we all need a little head in our lives…
It Makes Us Feel Powerful
Every NYgal likes to feel like a boss-ass bitch and giving and receiving oral sex is just another way to fulfill this sought-after desire.
While giving head we are in charge of pleasing our partners. We have the ability to give AND take away pleasure- teasing them- which can be, oh so fun, and also will intensify their end result. I’m talking a major major O that will put them right to sleep! Goodnight, boy!
Being in charge gives you the opportunity to switch up your oral techniques to discover what gets your partner going. From licking up and down his shaft to tugging gently as his balls, you’ll be able to gauge what he likes and what’s working for him. You are in charge so take advantage of this learning opportunity.
While receiving head, we’ll feel powerful because we know our man is down below working for US! This will make us feel like total queens- as long as he’s doing it right. So, guys, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: really get in there and experiment- we don’t want JUST your tongue tickling our clit.
Being Vulnerable Together
Oral sex is extremely vulnerable! Hello, you don’t let just anyone get that up and close to your precious V.
Most men are A-OK with having a woman perform a stellar blowjob on him right away, but some women get a little hesitant letting a man go down on her right off the bat.
But, girls, trust me, just do it. It’s so worth it and it’s the ultimate test to make sure your V will be properly taken care of by this stud.
Being vulnerable during oral sex is great for building trust in a relationship. He’ll trust you not to bite down on his D and you’ll trust him not suck on your clit TOO hard. A little hard is ok, but not TOO hard.
The trust that’s built during oral will carry over to other aspects of your relationship, further strengthing the bond you have already established.
69-ing Is the SHIT
If you’re not treating yourself to a hot and steamy 69-sesh at least once a month- you’re doing life all wrong.
69-ing is the BEST because you’re getting the ultimate pleasure while being able to pleasure at the same time! So, like, it’s a total win-win.
Oral fixation is definitely a thing! It’s proven that some people get off much easier with something in their mouths.
Hello, that’s why ball-gags are so popular!
Being Totally Present
While performing oral sex you should be totally present and in the moment. Giving head takes concentration and actual strategy, so don’t be lazy and unattentive. Seriously, your partner will not appreciate it.
The partner giving oral has the important job of observing how their partner verbally and physically responds to what they’re doing in order to ensure that the receiver is being properly satisfied.
Being completely present will make the sex more intense and increase the overall intimacy and closeness in the relationship.
Seeing Your Partner
Watching your partner squirm from a whole new angle is nothing less than hot. Visuals ALWAYS intensify pleasure- also a reason why ya’ll should be having sex with the lights on!
The new angle excites things because it’s different from the standard missionary and because it’s different, you can incorporate new techniques into the mix. For example, the new angle allows your man the opportunity to reach up and play with your nipples when their head is between your thighs.
When receiving oral, it allows men to push down on their partner’s head to have her go deeper (disclaimer: some women like this because they like to feel submissive during oral, but some women hate this. So give it a try and figure it out).
Women can take advantage of this new angle by playing with their partner’s hair or squeezing their partner’s hands to show them how good their work feels. Your man will appreciate the reassurance that he’s pleasing your glorious V.
The real turn-on, however, is seeing your partner shake, bite their lips, and curl their toes as you’re going to town. Knowing that your partner cannot control their physical movements because what you’re doing is so ‘damn good’ is an ego boost to your inner sexual vixen and will motivate you to keep going.
Hearing Your Partner
One of the sexiest things- next to the prime view that oral gives us- is the audio track that accompanies it.
Hearing your partner moan in pleasure is highly enjoyable because you know that you’re giving them this intense tingle that they can’t keep quiet about.
This is especially sexy if you’re with a man who is not usually vocal in bed but always lets out his moans and sighs during oral. Oh, baby!
P.S. Men, take note- we like to hear that you like it and that we’re doing a good job. Women love compliments in all aspects of life- keep that in mind.
Some of Us Need It to Get Off
Truth is, sex doesn’t always get a woman off. I know, men, you’re probably super surprised that your magical D is sometimes not enough! But, it’s not.
Some of us need some extra special attention- usually clitoral stimulation – which oral is absolutely ideal for.
We don’t want your hand ALL the time to help us with this and we certainly don’t want to always do it ourselves…sometimes a little head is all we need to get to that big O moment.
Mixes It Up
Sex day after day can get boring. If you’re doing the same three positions every time you screw, eventually they’re going to lose their appeal.
Switching it up and seeing and feeling each other from different angles will definitely keep things spicy and will allow you to discover things you never knew that you were SO totally into!
Consider adding head into a weekly or bi-weekly routine. Or at least incorporate it into foreplay. I mean, come on, any excuse for oral is a good one!
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