Admit it! You’ve faked it!
I’m sure it was because you were just over it, had somewhere to be, or maybe you were trying to make your partner feel good about themselves. Totally understandable, however, things have to change ladies! It’s time to take control and tell these men what we want and how we want it.
Here at NYgal, we compiled a list of the top six reasons why you should never ever fake that exciting yet explosive moment! This advice will seriously change your life. Say goodbye to sex no-nos and hello to the big oh-ohs!
1.Fake it Until You Make it, Doesn’t Work!
We’ve all heard the expression, “Fake it till you make it”. Does this actually work?
The answer is yes, but only in some situations. Let’s say you’re at a job interview and you’re feeling really insecure on the inside, but you’ve given yourself an amazing Jessica’s Daily Affirmation pep-talk in the bathroom beforehand. You’re radiating confidence on the outside as Jessica is but you’re thinking you’re an unqualified loser on the inside. You’ll fool everyone and their positive reactions will make you feel great inside, turning your outward confidence in. It’s magic.
However, this method does NOT work for orgasms. Yes, if you fake it, you’ll get a positive reaction from your partner, but you’ll be so focused on what an orgasm is supposed to sound like and trying to recreate how you usually clench the sheets with your hands, or how you curl your toes when you’re actually cumming. During sex, you have to clear your mind and let go, or the orgasm isn’t going to cum (pun intended).
2.Sacrificing Your Own Pleasure!
Faking an orgasm is like throwing out all your Halloween candy. You worked hard for this candy and now you’re just throwing it in the garbage for the rats to enjoy! Who does that?
So, why would you go through the effort of getting all dressed-up…and then undressed, and vigorously working your hips like Shakira only to PRETEND to be enjoying yourself? Don’t put your partner’s pleasure over yours! Yours is just as important!
3.Encouraging Moves that Don’t Work for You!
Why would we encourage our partners to continually repeat moves that don’t work for us? We all know men usually don’t know what they’re doing! Maybe he did for his last girlfriend, but all girls are different! With that being said, let’s stop trying to be polite and actually tell them what the deal is.
If he’s rubbing your clit like he’s trying to get a black mark off a wall with a magic eraser…then, let him know that it sucks! Don’t pretend to find pleasure in it just to get it over with. If you do, he’ll repeat this move every time you’re getting frisky.
4.You’re Disconnected from Your Partner!
You either want to disconnect from your partner, you’re over the relationship, or maybe you’re never planning on seeing Stan, Ben, Drake, Claude, or whatever his name is ever again. If that’s the case, then fake it! Once it’s overwith, pack up your stuff and get out of there as quickly as possible!
If you’re like most people, you’ll want to form some sort of connection during sex because sex is always more pleasurable when you are connecting and working off each other’s vibes. There is nothing sexier than knowing you’re both turning each other on.
5.You’re Putting All the Emphasis on the Big O!
So, the O is great. The O is beautiful. We all want the O. But, unfortunately, for ladies, the O during sex is rare. Guys are easy. You pull and tug and it’s done.
Women, however, are more complicated. We have a little cave of secrets. Men have tried to venture in, explore, and conquer, but many have failed. Instead of relying on all these Louis and Clarks to make new discoveries, focus on the whole experience! Let go and just enjoy the journey. I’m sure Louis and Clark had some great bro-chats crossing the Western territory as they weren’t always focused on the end result!
6.When Your Partner Finds Out, They’ll Feel Insecure!
No one likes to look at a man pout. Once he discovers you’ve been faking it this whole time, he’ll most definitely pout.
Chances are he will make sex annoying by checking in with you constantly, making it feel more like a peer review than an intimate moment. Or even worse, he might avoid sex altogether, because no man wants to feel like he doesn’t know what he’s doing.
Therefore, save the drama and tell him what you like rather than faking it! Then when he actually makes you cum, you can both enjoy it!
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