Dating a man-child is something no NYGal should have to endure. We are strong, independent, hardworking females that need a partner who supports our ambition. So, we definitely don’t have time for someone who doesn’t have their sh*t together.
As someone who has dated the ultimate man-child, I am here to share with you some clear ways to tell if you’re dating someone who doesn’t quite act their age. And, if he doesn’t, then don’t be afraid to break it off with this baby.
He Is Overwhelmed By Little Tasks
Little tasks like making an appointment, buying groceries, or washing the sheets on a regular basis are all way too overwhelming for a man-child. They will complain, stress-out, and probably ask you to do the task for them so that they don’t have to deal with it.
If your guy can’t do basic things that all people are required to do, then how is he going to be there for you in the relationship when something big comes up?
He Has Dreams But No Plans
The man-child is always a dreamer. He may want to become a businessman or an artist or a pilot. And, that’s all fine and good until you ask him what his plan is and he comes up blank.
Having a dream is a wonderful thing, but a real man devises a plan and puts it into action in order to achieve his goals. A man-child is all talk and no action. Make sure your guy can walk the walk.
He Never Understands Why You’re Mad At Him
It’s extremely frustrating to be in a relationship with someone who never understands why you’re upset with them. A man will understand your perspective once it’s explained and he will do everything in his power to make things better.
A man-child will most likely say something infuriating like, “chill out, babe” or “it’s not a big deal”, in order to diffuse the situation. However, as women, we know that this only makes us angrier.
Doesn’t Fight For You
The man-child never wants to lose you. You’re their world. You take care of them and love them with all your heart. But, he isn’t willing to put in the effort and fight for you when the time comes.
Ladies, don’t ever put up with this! If he sees your value, but cannot contribute any of his own to the relationship, then he is dead-weight that you need to get rid of. Stat.
He Loves Teasing You
Playful teasing can be cute sometimes, but if your boyfriend won’t stop teasing you and it’s becoming almost cold-hearted, then it’s time to let him go.
Either your boy is insecure or he just isn’t smart enough to have an intelligent conversation with you. So, drop this one and find someone who can keep up with your big brains, babe.
He Listens To His Parents Too Much
Ok, it’s totally sweet if your boyfriend is close to his parents. I mean, I think we all can agree that it’s nice when someone is family oriented. However, what’s not nice is when he listens to every single thing his parents tell him to do. And, relies on their input with everything little thing going on in their life.
Like, does he really need to call his mother just to ask her if he should go away for the weekend? Is he 16? No. He needs to grow up and start taking his life into his own hands.
He Avoids Serious Conversations
Serious conversations are like the plague for a man-child. They will avoid them to no end either with a “we will talk about it later” or by making a joke and laughing off the whole situation.
However, if you’re in a serious relationship with this guy, then serious conversations are absolutely necessary. Relationships aren’t all rainbows and butterflies. So, if he refuses to participate in some
You Feel Like You’re Always Nagging
It’s never fun to feel like you’re always nagging your partner. I know when I nag, I start hating myself. But, sometimes you get into a relationship with someone and it feels like that’s all you ever do!
But, girl, it’s not YOU. If you have to ask him over and over again to do one tiny little thing like washing the dishes or planing out weekend plans with you, then he’s the problem. You should never have to beg someone to do something for you, especially when you do everything for them.
You Mother Him
This is huge. If you feel like more of a mother than a girlfriend, then it’s time to find someone a little more adult and way more worth your time. It’s nice to do things for your boyfriend.
But, if he expects you to do his laundry, make his bed, and cook for him all the time, then that’s a total dealbreaker. Especially, if he’s not willing to take care of you in some way too.
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