Talking naughty can be super intimidating if you’re a little shy. Seriously, what do you even say? Where do you start? Girl, don’t worry, we’re here to help. We are here to teach you how to dirty talk like a pro even if you’re painstakingly shy. That’s because we believe that you should be confident in the sheets and enjoying every single moment of your sexual experience.
Now, don’t get scared. We are going to make this as painless as possible for you. There are so many benefits to dirty talk that you are about to unlock by following these easy steps. You will not only be a million times sexier to your partner by saying these naughty lines, but you will feel empowered and in control. It might even open up the doors for some more experimentation.
This is how to dirty talk even when you’re shy…
Talk About What You See
Talking about what you are seeing can be very erotic for both you and your partner. It puts the focus on the moment and your pleasure. Visual stimuli during sex can be a major turn-on. So, by centering attention on the physical actions that are happening and the body images you are seeing can create another layer to your sexual stimulation.
Talk about how your partner is touching you, how your partner looks, how you are touching your partners, even feel free to ask them questions regarding visuals. This dirty talk hack is a simple way to ease into feeling comfortable on this new sexual experimentation.
Talk About What You Want
There is nothing sexier than asking for what you want. It’s a totally bold and confident move that will make your lover drop to their knees to please you. Also, it’s a great trick if you want to start some frisky dirty talk.
How you ask is also very important. You want to remain calm, cool, and sexy. Don’t come off as complaining. The last thing you want to do is make your lover feel as if they were inadequate before you started asking for what you want. If you do it right, your partner will love the extra help satisfying your wants.
There’s no doubt that whispering is sultry. Seriously, don’t you get goosebumps when your S.O. whispers into your ear? It doesn’t even really matter what they are saying! That’s why this is one of our favorite “how to dirty talk” tricks to share!
Just one slow whisper to your lover will certainly make them quiver with excitement. And, the phrase you whisper doesn’t have to be some rehearsed naughty poem. It could be as simple as, “I want you” or “I need you”. We guarantee it will still get their socks tight.
Giggles and Noises
Ok, don’t believe what you’ve heard. Giggles are definitely your friend in the sack when done strategically. Obviously, you don’t want to start chuckling and not be able to cool it. That could get a little weird. But, a cute giggle here and there to maintain your “innocence” can be a total turn-on to your partner. It lets your partner feel that they are in control. And, it’s a cue to them that you are totally lost in the moment.
Noises are a form of dirty talk we often forget. Dirty talk doesn’t have to be just phrases and naughty words. It can be singular words combined with noises such as sighs, moans, and giggles. This power combo reassures your partner that they’re doing a stellar job. And, you can also use it as a tactic to direct their next move! Who’s in control now?
A super nerdy but super great way to learn how to dirty talk is by reading erotic novels. Yes, we know most of them aren’t written very well. Their stories are poor and the characters are half-witted. However, they certainly know how to write a vivid sex scene.
Think of reading an erotic novel simply as research for your own pleasure. You may even discover something new that you want to try out with your S.O. But even if you don’t, and the novel doesn’t do much to rev you up, the erotic flow of the scenes will guide your new-found vocabulary in the sheets.