Does it seem like everyone is in a relationship but you? Despite all the dating apps you’ve gone through and all the bars you went to meet someone new, you’re still single. Well, there are so many reasons why you might be the only one in your squad without a bae. Don’t worry, we’re here to break it down for you. Here are 13 reasons why you’re still single.
1. You Rely Too Much on Technology
We understand that this is a digital age. Technology rules this world. However, just because you can use the internet for basically anything, it doesn’t mean you should use it to get a relationship. Yes, Tinder and E-Harmony are great, but don’t let it control who you meet. NYC is full of so many beautiful people. Disconnect from your phone and you just might find your soulmate.
2. You Play Hard to Get
Playing hard to get may have worked in high school and college, but you’re an adult now. Guys don’t want to chase you forever. We’re not saying to be too easy. It’s definitely good to make them work for you. Just don’t make them chase you for months. They’ll eventually give up and move on to someone else.
3. You Haven’t Moved on From Your Ex
If you’re still holding on to memories of your ex, then you’re not letting yourself move on. This makes it difficult for you to find someone new. You’ll find yourself comparing your new boo to your old, and this will destroy any healthy relationship.
4. You’re Being Too Picky
No one should settle for less than they deserve, but you definitely shouldn’t nitpick every little thing about someone. You’ll never find anyone that way. Remember that everyone has flaws, and it’s okay. If you notice more good than bad about a person, then try it out. You’ll be surprised at what bad habits you can tolerate.
5. You’re Afraid to Make the First Move
Have you gone somewhere and met an incredible guy but were too afraid to ask him out? Yeah, that’s a no-no. Be a big girl and make a move! Don’t be afraid of looking like a groupie. Most of the time, guys like it when the woman makes the first move. Unless they’re already in a relationship, they won’t turn down a free drink. What do you have to lose?
6. You’re Too Independent
Relationships are a two-way street. It requires you to rely on someone else sometimes. When you constantly do things alone, you’re sending the message that you like and want to be alone. So your partner will make you that way. It’s alright to be dependent on someone else at times.
7. You Try to Change Everyone
No one likes to be told how to live their life. If you’re the type of person that tries to change people and turn them into who you want them to be, then you’ll be single forever. Learn to accept people for who they are and don’t try to change them. How would you feel if someone tried to change you?
8. You Push People Away
Getting close to someone new can be scary, but you have to open your heart in order to have a healthy relationship. Pushing people away makes it hard for them to love you, which translates into you being single for a very long time. Hold on to the ones close to you, because in an instant, they could be gone.
9. You Don’t Know What You Want
If you don’t know what you want in a relationship, it can be hard to find it. Being indecisive is for picking your college major, not your next relationship. We understand that it’s hard knowing exactly what you want, but when you find out, don’t wait to get it. Make up your mind and find someone that you want.
10. You’re Looking For a Fairytale Relationship
Cinderella is a fairytale. Snow White is a fairytale. There’s not a knight in shining armor coming to rescue you. There are amazing guys out there, but they won’t be a prince. Even Meagan Markle has some drama in her life and she’s actually married to a prince. It’s time to face the reality that relationships aren’t perfect, but they’re worth it.
11. You Fall Too Hard Too Fast
Have you told someone you love them after a week? Yeah, that’s not sweet, it’s creepy. Falling too hard for someone at a creepily fast rate will make them want to run fast. Even if you believe in love at first sight, it’s best to keep it to yourself until you know that your boo is on the same page as you. There’s nothing worse than falling for someone who doesn’t care for you as much as you do.
12. You Don’t Love Yourself
If you don’t love yourself, then how can you love someone else? It takes self-love and acceptance to have a relationship. You must be comfortable with yourself before trying to live your life with someone else. Some tips for learning self-love:
- Spend time by yourself
- Pamper yourself
- Reflect on your life goals and image
13. You’re Not Ready For a Relationship
Just because you’re single, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. Maybe you’re just not ready for a relationship, and that is totally fine. If you’ve gone through a terrible breakup, give yourself some time to heal. Having a boyfriend doesn’t make your life better than anyone else’s. Take your time to discover what you want in your next relationship.