Generally, mindfulness entails being present and attentive to whatever is happening at the moment. It wipes off any judgment, thoughts, and feelings outside of the present so that your mind doesn’t wander. So, you must be wondering, what is mindful sex?
Well, it is the kind of sex that involves lovemaking without thinking of anything other than sex. Forget the to-do-list, the mold in the basement, or the empty fuel tank, and enjoy the moment.
In a recent interview with Sandra Larson, a nurse and relationship expert, she clearly outlined the benefits of practicing mindfulness during sex. “Mindful sex promotes a more rewarding experience,” she starts. “Both partners are fully focused on the sensations, which in turn boosts physical and mental well-being.”
Here are some of the reasons why everybody is talking about mindful sex.
Mindfulness Increases Sexual Arousal
According to Sandra, mindfulness allows you to be more in tune with yourself and the world around you. Research shows that people who engage in mindful sex over conventional sex feel more aroused quicker during sex. Why? You might be thinking.
Well, mindful sex means that your mind is committed to your body’s natural, innate feelings and that of your partner’s. By starving your mind of distraction, you can easily and appropriately tap into the feelings you’re experiencing during the encounter. That way, you’re able to pick the subtlest of physical touches and body reaction from your partner.
It Fosters a Deeper Connection
More than any other time, mindful sex allows you and your partner to unmask your insecurities and bring nothing but your true selves to the experience. In these moments of ‘complete nakedness’ and sexual awareness, a unique bond forms. Both partners can express their true selves and desires during sex without fear of judgment. Gradually, a more profound connection is made by fostering a positive sexual environment in the relationship.
Whether you’re masturbating solo or having sex with your partner, being mindful will always foster a deeper connection. In fact, Sandra recommends building the sexual relationship alone first before sharing it with your other half. “Exploring the relationship you have with yourself first puts you in a better position to do it with your partner,” she says. “This way, you can understand your inner self and needs better, express them to your significant other, and vice versa for an even more pristine and aware relationship.”
Mindful Sex Improves Your Body Confidence
We’ve all had body confidence issues, and what typically starts as a few negative thoughts can slowly turn into intense feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. In most cases, negative body image often leads to social withdrawal, anxiety, and depression. “The individual sets unrealistic goals in the quest for a ‘perfect’ body, leading to disappointments and emotional distress,” affirms Sandra.
So, how can mindful sex help you improve your body confidence? Well, according to Sandra, being mindful means forgetting everything else but the mood and aura during sex. “People who practice mindfulness accept their body and that of their partner.”
But there’s more. Mindful sex shifts your attention away from your physical appearance and directs it to how you feel inside. This way, you’re more in tune with your cues and feelings rather than your physical imperfections.
And that’s it! Mindful sex significantly boosts physical and emotional well-being. It allows you to focus more on your bodily feelings and cues, resulting in a more satisfying and rewarding sexual experience. Eliminate the distractions, set an intention, and just breathe. Over time, you may notice improvements in sexual arousal, connection with your partner, and body image.