If you have ever been involved in a long-distance relationship, you know how hard it can be to keep them alive. You might think that your flame of love is burning so hot that nothing can put it out but let us tell you- it can, and it will if you don’t take steps to make it happen.
Don’t wait for things to go sour before you act! Be proactive and avoid the 7 most common mistakes women make with long distance relationships.
Mistake #1- Not making communication your priority
You might be so busy with your life that school, work, and/or clubbing with your girlfriends that you don’t have much time to talk to your lover. Ideally, you should talk every day or at a minimum, every other day. Out of sight, out of mind, ladies, so make sure you stay on his mind with at least a little chat every day.
Mistake #2- Listening to others
There will always be one or two of your closest friends or even relatives (Hi Mom!) who are really “Debbie Downers” when it comes to a long-distance relationship.
They will happily give you examples of relationships that went wrong and how you will regret it, blah, blah. Don’t listen to them, no matter who they are.
You and your lover know what the real story about the health of your relationship is! Tell those well-meaning people thanks and forget about it.
Mistake #3-Getting really angry over little spats
Sometimes, simple miscommunications or misunderstandings can lead to big fall-outs. It’s so easy to get angry and do something you regret (like hooking up with your ex to get even). Send your partner a text and set a time when you can talk things over before you do something foolish.
Mistake #4-Believing that flirting is OK
Yes, flirting is fun and really boosts your ego, but how would you feel if your boyfriend were doing the same? If you need to hide what you are doing or you lie about it, then you either shouldn’t be doing it, or your relationship isn’t as “committed” as you say it is.
Mistake #5- Cancelling video “dates”
A long-distance relationship means you can’t have real dates, so video dates via Skype or Facetime will have to do, but when you cancel them frequently, your partner is bound to think you don’t care any longer.
Don’t cancel your video dates unless absolutely necessary and if you must cancel, set up another one ASAP!
Mistake #6-Making ridiculous demands
Trust is the foundation for every relationship and demanding that your lover pass silly tests to prove that they love you or that they are where they say they are, only makes them angry and you appear to be insecure or untrusting.
You know what we are talking about here; the woman who demanded her boyfriend stand in the kitchen with a spoon on his head to prove he was really at home? Yeah, that. Don’t do it.
Mistake #7-Making unproven allegations of infidelity
Unless you have solid proof (not “my best friend’s boyfriend’s mother’s boyfriend said”) that your partner was unfaithful to you, do not accuse them of sleeping with their friends, their roommates’ girlfriends, the secretary, or anyone! Those accusations will be the beginning of the end, guaranteed.