Group Dates
Sometimes it feels like the biggest challenge is juggling your long-term partner with your best friends. Do your girlfriends also have long-term partners? Chances are, your girlfriends are having the same struggle. Will all partners get along? Then try a group date!
Bring the most important people in your lives together in a perfect blend. If the partners connect and enjoy each other’s company, more group dates are definitely in your future, which means guaranteed best friend time. However, never underestimate the importance of time with just girls.
Pick Up The Phone
A text comes in from your best friend while you’re working. You’ll try to get back to her at lunch. Before you know it, two days go by, the text still unread. We’re all guilty of not communicating with people closest in our lives, but sometimes, all you need is girl talk.
Make a point to pick up the phone for a surprise call every few weeks, or even schedule a weekly phone call. Whatever works best for your schedules. Although it sometimes feels like talking on the phone is an ancient art, it’s really gratifying to actually hear your best friend’s voice. Better yet, FaceTime. The point is, we have options. In our busy lives, finding time for our girlfriends above and beyond a usual text makes the world feel brighter.
Girl Time Together
If you are so lucky as to live in the same geographical location as your best friend, make it a point to go out and see each other. In person. Do you work blocks away from each other, but never have a run-in?
Start your days together, grab coffee in the mornings before heading your separate ways. Meet for lunch once a week at a halfway point. Join the same gym and commit to a fitness class together. Even better, get together at night, when you are released from the stressors of work and you can be fully present, in-the-moment with your girlfriends.
Go out for drinks if that’s your vibe, or stay in and self-care with homecooked dinner, face masks and movies. It’s a beautiful thing to finally realize that spending time with your girlfriends is actually taking care of yourself. It doesn’t really matter what you choose to do, as long as you’re together.
Sometimes You Just Need A Reminder
When you make a commitment, stick to it. Making a point to consistently spend time together is the number one way to make time for your girlfriends while in a long-term relationship. Specifically going out of your way to spend time just you and your best friends is a nonverbal way to communicate just how important they are in your life. It also gives you a forum to have an honest conversation with each other in ways you might not be able to do with your partner present.
Let’s be honest, we all need to vent about our relationships, romantic and platonic, from time to time! Even though we hope long-term relationships last, your girlfriends have no expectations for you except for you to live your best life. All they ask in return is to be along with you for the ride.
