As New Yorkers, we are stressed to the max 24/7; Between work, poor commutes, mandatory social engagements, and the terrible dating scene, we can barely find time for a little self-care to calm our anxious nerves.
According to the ADAA, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, 40 million adults in the U.S. suffer from some form of anxiety, making it the most common mental illness. People chose to cope in different ways; Some choose unhealthy habits such as substances, which can result in addiction, while others cope in more spiritual ways, such as meditation or journaling.
But, what if I told you that you could treat your anxiety with something we all love?…Sex!
Yes, that’s right! Sex is actually a proven way to rid anxiety, ease tension and calm your stressed nerves.
Now, let me tell you why a sexy little screw-sesh makes those anxious thoughts fade and successfully clears your pretty little head…
While getting freaky in the sheets, the brain acts as a sort of “pleasure center” to help us discover what’s working for us and what’s not. This communication between the genitals and the brain help create a satisfying sexual experience that overpowers anxiety.
Neurochemicals give off that euphoric feeling we get during sexual activity that affects the brain similarly to heroin says a study published in the Journal of Neuroscience.
On top of that, the chemical oxytocin is released in the brain when an orgasm is reached; the mad rush of this love-drug immediately takes center stage in the brain, wiping away all feelings of anxiety. The after effect of this rush creates a calming wave that successfully keeps anxious thoughts at bay.
The physical and emotional connection created during sex can be a real aid in calming one’s nerves. It is scientifically proven that a simple touch can be all a person needs in order to feel safe and secure. An emotional bond created during intercourse also assists in assuring the anxious person that they are not alone in fighting their battle with anxiety. The reassurance of security, both physically and emotionally, combat the anxious thoughts, setting a person at ease.
More specifically, the intimacy and closeness during oral sex aids in coping with anxiety disorders because of its extreme level of vulnerability with another human. When humans let down their guards and allow themselves to give and receive physical satisfaction, anxious feelings begin to fade because of the mutual positive connection being forged.
We all know that exercise is a tried and true method of coping with various forms of anxiety. But, here’s a better idea, why not skip the gym and practice cardio in the bedroom instead?
Getting a little physical with your partner on a semi-regular basis allows the anxious energy you’re holding to be released in a healthy way, much like your 45 minutes on the elliptical.
When practicing sex as a remedy for anxiety, being more physically aggressive is the way to go! It’ll pump up your heart, while also letting you tap into your wild side, resulting in the release of tension from your body.
Clear Your Head
There are a great many spiritual practices to combat anxiety that are notorious for their ability to help a person clear their head. Yeah, sure you could grab your yoga mat and head to a quick class or simply download Headspace to get your meditation game strong, but wouldn’t a spicy romp in the bedroom be much more fun?
Sex is an activity where people have to let go and embrace their primal side. The focus of sex is purely physical pleasure which creates an animalistic mindset, blocking out anxiety. During an orgasm, the lateral orbitofrontal cortex, which is located behind a person’s left eye, actually shuts down completely.
So, sex like actually shuts your brain off, instantly silencing any anxious thoughts- Yoga can’t do that!
Some people take the Carrie Bradshaw approach and shop for designer shoes when they’re stressed or anxious, some people treat themselves to a $5 coffee, but sex is another way you can essentially “treat yourself”…or rather have someone else treat you!
The act of rewarding yourself with this self-love gift calms nerves and allows you to let in positive vibes. When you’re doing something you enjoy and receiving positive energy, anxious thoughts will surely begin to slip away.
The act of sex as a gift to yourself treats your body in a way that Marc Jacobs just can’t!
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