“I hate giving blowjobs”
“Blowjobs are boring”
“My jaw f**king hurts”
I’ve heard these complaints over and over from girlfriends of mine. And, honestly, it shocks me every time. Like, girl, if you aren’t enjoying it too, then you’re obviously you’re not doing it right! Sex, no matter what form should be pleasurable for BOTH parties.
So, like, giving a blow job doesn’t have to be all about him. I mean, maybe he would like for it to be. But, if that’s the case, then get rid of him because any man willing to have sex with you knowing that you’re not being satisfied too, is a total creep; So scat!
Here are some tips for my girls to help fight the blowjob-boredom stigma. Get ready, ladies! You’ll want to be going downtown all night.
Switch It Up
Ok, just because it’s oral sex doesn’t mean you JUST have to use your mouth. Actually, if that’s seriously all you’ve been doing I feel so bad for your jaw, girl. It’s time to switch it up a little. And, by switching it up, you will discover new ways to pleasure BOTH you and your partner.
Try using your hands by putting them to work at various speeds. Your bae will love the buddy-buddy teamwork of your hands and mouth together. And, it will open up the doors for some experimentation. Let your hands and mouth wander around his testicles and inner thighs or, really wherever you’re willing to go. I mean, I’m not going to say ‘put a finger in his butt’, but…put a finger in his butt.
But (pun intended), always be sure to look up to gauge what he’s enjoying. You’ll definitely be able to tell by his sighs, hair pulling, and facial expressions if he’s totally into it or you’re getting a little too freaky for him.
Give Yourself Some Love
You touch yourself all the time, I’m sure, so there is no reason why you can’t incorporate that into his (yours too!) oral experience. Show yourself a little bit of love by playing with yourself while you’re going down on him.
Be ready for him to drool over the view of you touching your V. I mean, really, it’s like a two-in-one porn deal; He gets to see a blowjob AND masturbation happening at once. That’s pretty lucky.
Also, you’ll be turned on by pleasing your man while you’re getting off. The extra stimulation of his D in your mouth will bring your O to a whole new level. It’s really a win-win situation. And, you’re in total control, which is always a sexy game-changer.
Tease Him
Oh, teasing can be so much fun! For both parties. And, he better thank you for the torturous teasing when he experiences the most incredible O of his life.
Start by slowly kissing down his neck, shoulders, and chest. Then use the classic start-stop method to really get him edging. By taking away the mouthwatering pleasure and then giving it back to him at different speeds and for different amounts of time, he will not know what to expect from you; This will add to the build of his climax. Just be sure, not to stop too much; You want him to
Also, the act of teasing puts you in total control, lady, so feel free to bring out your bad-girl side. I’m not saying you HAVE to tie him up, but it’s an idea.
Talk, Girl
We all love a little dirty talk when we’re getting nasty. And, oral sex is no exception. You’re doing MAJOR work for him, girl, so I f**king hope he’s giving you some praise. If he’s not, then feel free to start the conversation.
Talking dirty will make you feel completely in control even though you’re performing in a classically submissive position. It will also open up the floor for him to tell you what he’s enjoying. This will improve your sex-game, increasing satisfaction for both of you. And, hearing his compliments will make you feel like a total goddess. And, isn’t that what we all want?
Make Him Do Some Work Too
There is no shame in being the girl that wants a mutual effort every time. So, if you want him to put in some work too, then let him know.
69ing is the classic go-to move to put this into effect. And, it’s so satisfying to be pleasuring each other at the same time. However, if that’s just not for you, there are other ways to get mutual pleasure. Have your lover use his hands on you a little while you’re getting busy with his down below.
There are so many different ways to make oral sex more enjoyable. Find out what works for you and your partner. And, happy blowing!