Have you ever wondered why a relationship just didn’t work out? Maybe it’s because you were speaking different languages. No, but actually.
Love has five different languages: quality time, acts of service, gift-giving, words of affirmation, and physical touch.
In order to satisfy a relationship, both partners have to speak the same love languages Yes, you can be bi-lingual, or at least understand their language differences and learn to meet their partner’s needs.
1. Give me the Time!
Also known as quality time.
If a weekly date-night at Shake Shack, a romantic weekend getaway to the Poconos, or even just a Netflix-binge on a Friday night where you are snuggled up to your boo makes you feel loved, then this might be one of your love languages.
To get the most out of your relationship, let your man understand that even taking the time to send a "good morning" text means the world to you! For you, not everything has to be done on a large-scale! You don’t expect him to take a day off from work every week to spend time with you or spend every Sunday morning in your bed. You just want to know that you’re on his mind and that you matter. Easy-peasy!
2. Help me out!
Also known as acts of service.
If you want to wrap your arms around him when he picks up milk on his way home, deposits a check for you while he’s at the bank, or vacuums the rug, then you defintely speak this language!
Be sure to show gratitude and appreciation for your man when he goes out of his way to help you. It’ll be a win-win because he’ll feel like he did something right for once and take that as a cue to continue helping you, which makes your life just a little bit easier!
3. Buy Me Stuff!
Also known as gift-giving.
If you’re a typical material girl like Madonna, then this love language will make you feel like a virgin touched for the very first time.
Diamond rings, designer purses, and vacations in France will make your legs quiver with excitement, so show off the goodies he buys you and he’ll keep them coming! Soon you’ll have to invest in a storage unit because we all know New York has small closets.
4. Tell Me You Love Me!
Also known as words of affirmation.
Some people love the beautiful love letters written to them, the Shakespeare sonnets recited to them, and the sappy songs sung to them. All of these are words of affirmation. Let’s be real, how many people actually receive affirmation in those forms anymore?
In modern-age dating, words of affirmation can be as simple as a compliment on your new Kate Spade cardigan, the way your hair shines in the sun, or even an "I love you" that you hear every night before bed. Give him an extra passionate kiss and the sweet-nothings in your ear will be on replay.
5. Touch My Body!
Also known as physical touch.
We all love sex with our partners, but to some people, it’s what really makes their heart beat fast.
Physical touch is more than just steamy quickies in the bathroom. This love language can be fufilled by him touching your leg on the subway, his hand on the small of your back when he is introducing you to his co-worker, or a soft kiss on the cheek before you leave for work. If all of these things sound great, then you probably associate with this language! With that being said, there is no need to be shy. Encourage him to touch you more because I’m sure he won’t mind!
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