First dates, ah! These moments hold the potential for being either your best memories ever or some of your worst nightmares; trust me on this. And the reason is actually pretty obvious. A first date means meeting someone for the very first time, which clearly states that you have no idea what the other person might be like. Would they be a chivalrous human with loads of courtesy and good manners, or would they be self-absorbed, control freaks who might just be nice on the outside but a whole different story once you actually get to know them? While it is certainly not possible to know what a person is like in the very first meeting, certain things can still be made very clear in just one meeting. And during this meeting, you’re supposed to see if there are any potential red flags in the person you might consider having as your partner in the future. So, below are some tips that you could follow and keep in mind when you’re out on a first date.
1. Makes You Wait
Making someone wait for too long is already not a very nice trait to have, for we all know how precious time is for all of us, especially in this era of busy schedules and hectic days. And making your first date wait for long is even worse. Someone who shows up late to your date is already giving you a sign that they might not value your time. While having an emergency or being stuck in traffic while they were on their way to meet you is understandable, any other less solid reasons just say otherwise. Having someone who values your time just as much as you do is a very important trait that you must look out for in your date.
2. Asks Too Many Questions And Answers None
Anyone who is interested in you is likely to ask you questions about you. What you like and what you don’t, what you think and what you enjoy, what makes you happy, what saddens you the most, and the list goes on. And it actually makes us feel significant, like what we think and feel about things also matters to someone other than us. But beware; someone asking all about you and dodging every question that you throw at them might mean that there is something fishy. If somebody’s got nothing to hide, then why avoid every question asked of them? If your first date does the same, that might be a red flag you should not overlook.
3. Love Bombing
Since it is a romantic date, being a little flirty and sweet by getting you something like a flower is all nice and good. But calling you names like ‘sweetheart’, ‘darling,” or ‘gorgeous’ would be a little too much, don’t you think? For someone that you know nothing about, using such affectionate words, buying gifts, and making extra flirty comments and stuff might sometimes mean that they are trying to make it quick and move on to the further physical part ahead. Don’t be surprised; there are people like this out there. Just be cautious of what their true intentions might be.
4. Calls You To A Strange Place
Any person who is concerned for you wouldn’t want you to be in a place that causes you even the slightest bit of discomfort. But if your date asks you to meet them at a strange, odd place, they might just have no care for your safety and might also have ulterior motives. This is a trait that speaks volumes about a person and gives you enough hints about what they might be like for you if you choose to date them further.
5. Overly Critical
We all have our opinions. We all have our points of view on different subject matters. But being too critical of almost everything is something that no decent human would do, for it is not possible to find fault in literally everything around you. Someone who criticizes the life out of everything might be a serious controller and judgmental person to be with, and you could possibly become a victim of this. So better to watch out if your date does the same by being too judgmental about the place, the food, being rude to the waiters, and so on, and make your decision likewise.
Choosing someone to be your partner is not something to be taken lightly. Someone that you’re going to spend a significant amount of your day with should be a person that respects people, cares for them, and is pretty well summed up as a decent human being since humanity comes before anything else does. So while dates are meant to be fun and lighthearted, make sure that you enjoy your time while also feeling safe and secure about the person you’re with. And if it suits you well, who knows there might be a lot of room for butterflies and rose gardens.
