From my personal experiences through different relationships I’ve been in, losses could be experienced which can cause you a great deal of sadness. An example of a loss would be a break-up, which can be very painful to cope with on your own. The thought of giving someone your all for a temporary space-time never comes to mind while you’re in a relationship. If you experienced a break-up, there are remedies to cure your broken heart. Whether you recuperate from your heart break rather quicker or slower than expected, questions you should always ask yourself while in the process are: "Do I want to heal properly? Would I like to heal with or without closure?".
Once you know the answers to these questions, the healing process can begin. Listed, are a couple of my favorite methods to apply when in the healing process:
FIND A HOBBY
When you are devastated by a break-up, all you want to do is bounce on a sofa, lay down in bed, or watch television. Although these activities are ideal for many that are experiencing the case of a broken heart, I learned that developing my goals along with interests was rewarding for me when I felt sad. Taking up hobbies while experiencing any type of loss can be helpful as hobbies build self-esteem, help you connect with others that have similar interests as you, relieve stress, and can keep you youthful as well as an interesting individual.
READ & WRITE
You may wonder, "what books should I read to relieve this emotional pain I am currently experiencing?". If I was heartbroken, I would try reading anything except books based on relationships or families. I would intend on reading books about nature, animals, art, classical literature, or math. Ice cream, junk foods, and drinks may help, however, they will not have a positive long-term effect during your healing process as reading a book does. I would also recommend writing or journal therapy, since writing one’s feelings gradually comforts feelings of emotional trauma.
When you think of "spring cleaning", the thought of boxing up old belongings in your home comes to mind. In the healing process, we are "spring cleaning" ourselves, which requires deleting all pictures with an ex you are no longer with, changing your room items around completely, along with painting the space you live in as well as to donating and selling items that bring you nothing but negativity.
TALK TO SOMEONE
I know it may seem easier to leave people out of your business, however, you may want a shoulder to cry on and vent to, especially during a break-up. Whether you converse with a friend or a specialist about your situation, you are refreshing your mind and cleansing out the negativity within you.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Last but not least, having self-compassion for yourself is key which consists of treating yourself with kindness and mindfulness when considering our perceived deficiencies, though in a different guise which I like to call “self-appreciation." When you can enjoy all the positive things about yourself along with acknowledging that you have strengths and weaknesses, you allow yourself to take pleasure in your morality without being aloof or overconfident.
No matter what hardships you face, always look at yourself in the mirror and adore the reflection you see. You will face the darkness in your life someway, as you do when feeling heartbroken, however, the cure is in your hands. In order to heal, you have to trust the process by having a positive outlook and simply remembering certain situations happen for a reason which won’t kill you but will actually make you stronger.
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