As Dev Patel’s character emphatically stated in Modern Love, “Trust is the currency of a relationship.” The moment trust is broken, the relationship begins to disintegrate. While cheating wreaks havoc in a relationship, the partner who is on the receiving end suffers the most. It breaks your heart, leaving you drained mentally and physically. It might feel like your world is crashing down.
But is it possible to regain trust between two individuals who have drifted apart? It might be possible, but it is going to be a long process. The effort to regenerate that lost trust is difficult, but before you enter into that process of regaining trust, there are a lot of things to consider.
Things To Consider
Cheating leaves an indelible mark on a relationship. Getting used to that scar and living with it might prove to be quite strenuous in the long run. Hence, there are several things to consider before getting back with the person who has already shown you that they are capable of hurting you.
Is this going to work out well? Will this not give birth to an inevitable suspicion? How will you tackle it? Will this eventually lead to an inevitable breakup? Think about all these before you take a step forward. But you should also accept the fact that there is no simple answer to all these questions, and things might take quite some time to get sorted; you might as well need time to figure things out. The most important thing you must remember is to take time to think things through and never forget to prioritize yourself.
The person who cheated will first need to accept the fact that they have erred. The very fact that they cheated shows that they are hard to trust. However, it is quite difficult to forget the good times you have shared, and more often than not, this is the reason why you consider giving them a second chance. Keep an eye out for the efforts. Although it is hard to think with your mind when dealing with matters of the heart, make sure that you are rational. Analyze the situation and confirm that the person is willing to put in genuine efforts toward repairing what’s lost.
Being cheated on is a traumatizing experience, and it can even trigger past traumas. Hence, train your mind to be alert and expect the worst. Because there are chances that things might get pretentious at some point. Do not resist your instincts. If you feel, even slightly, that something is not quite right, then take it as a sign to bolt. Put a wall between the person who cheated and yourself, because you deserve so much more. Do not let the feelings make you forget your self-worth.
Working Out A Solution
It is important that the individuals understand that there is a need for clear and specific communication. For once, both parties must set aside their egos and listen to each other without blaming anyone. It is important to get to the root cause of why the other person in the relationship cheated. If your partner has cheated on you citing the cause of “mere temptation,” then be sure that it is a red flag. However, this is not always the case. There is always an underlying issue. Try to find that out, and if you wish to continue the relationship, then hear each other out and get to know what was missing that led your partner astray.
The one who has cheated should always accept the truth of their action and take full responsibility for it. There should be no falsification in the narration of the mistake that has been made. If the person lies another time, then be sure it is not something to carry on with. If the person accepts and puts in the effort, thus proving their worth, they can be considered to get back into your life again.
All in all, it should not go unnoticed that time is required. Trust, once broken, is very hard to rebuild. Therefore, the persuasion process may continue for a long period of time. There can also be times when you may feel fed up and frustrated, but it is advisable to do things that you love so that you can slowly and steadily get back to that state where you can make a final decision.