Anal has always been thought of as a taboo act in the sexual game, but so many people want it, have thought about it, or do it on a regular basis.
However, we STILL never seem to talk about it openly with anyone besides our close sexual partners.
NYgal encourages sexual exploration to enhance pleasure and to get to that super sweet O. That’s why we decided to stir up the conversation and ask 28 people about their thoughts on anal.
These were the responses we received…
Scott, 28
I used to think of anal as some sort of taboo thing they only did in porn, but when I was 16 I caught the eye of a 37-year-old woman. She was gorgeous and she messed up my whole sex forever… or, maybe made it better?
She hit me with the reverse cowgirl and I slipped out and up and she didn’t skip a beat! The whole thing caught me by surprise as I was terrified, but so turned on.
I still have love for that woman and I will forever be looking for a freak in the sheets now! I feel like it takes a lot of passion and love to sexually explore every part of someone’s body and it’s an experience unlike any other.
Sarah, 26
I like to save anal for spicing things up when they feel stagnant. I’ve only ever done it when I’ve been in serious relationships. If I let you put it in my butt, that means I really like and trust you. Other than that, you won’t hear me complaining about a lil finger back there.
Michael, 29
Never done it and never had an interest in it. However, I hear a tight asshole is like a Chinese finger-trap for your dick.
Rebecca, 26
I think that anal is such a taboo subject which is just crazy to me! Personally, I like to try everything at least once and anal is something that I tried and ended up really enjoying. I do believe that with a patient partner and the right mood anal can help achieve the BEST orgasm. It’s an adventurous act, but who doesn’t want a little adventure in their sex life?
Danny, 29
I’m all for anal. I think it can bring the two closer together than just a typical one-night stand. To be honest, I find that with a very attractive person, eating ass is much more desirable than anything I’ve ever encountered.
Leslie, 26
I’ve found anal to be pleasurable. I think overall, some well-placed fingers are more preferable. It’s something I’ve enjoyed with my long-term partner. It seems more intimate, but then again, I’ve been out of the dating game for quite some time.
James, 28
Anal is something that I’ve always been curious about. I’ve only read about it, but definitely down to try!
Chelsea, 26
Anal is the only time a man will ever talk down about the size of his dick. I can’t think of another time in life where a man will carry on about how small it is and how you won’t even feel it. Unless he wants to put it in your butt.
Anal, like all the other types of sex, can be fun and enjoyable. It caught a bad rap for some reason. Now, the people who turned their noses up at it are putting it in the butt all the time and those who were doing anal before have already moved on to eating ass.
I think that with the right person it’s going to be less awkward and more comfortable than say, whipping out that card during a hookup with a rando. The right man to do anal with is a man willing to get shit on his dick. And if he isn’t willing to risk a little Nutella on his pretzel rod, you probably shouldn’t be trying it for the first time with HIM anyway.
Start small and work up until you’re comfortable. Remember the safe word, trim your fingernails, and for God’s sake, use some lube.
Also. Side note: Reminder that the butt is an equal opportunist. Everyone’s got one. So everyone’s got one to stick something into.
Luke, 31
Well ok, so I’m a fan. I like when the girl takes control and tells me to do it. I think it’s extremely sexy, like fucking hot! You can try to insinuate the act, but obviously, don’t force the issue. If she’s not into it, then let it be.
That being said, I’ve also had girls want to do it for me. Although I’ve never had anything penetrate me, a little fooling around back there is kind of fun!
Vivi-Anne, 27
We met up at an office building where I was dropping off a contract and he said, “when you’re done, meet me in the bathroom.” So, I did. He bent me over the windowsill and TA-DA!
Sam, 28
I personally think anal is overrated. It’s something you see in a porno and you always think you want to do it until you do and you figure out it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Anal is like a freaky side-show that can make a normal sexual experience awesome, but I don’t make it the main act.
Ariel, 25
Anal is brand new to me. I didn’t have much interest before, but I’ve found that with the right partner it’s definitely something I’ve been into exploring. It’s kind of sexy having him check if I’m okay with everything and working together to make it pleasurable.
Dylan, 26
So, the key is definitely comfort, reassurance, trust, and A LOT of lube. Never be afraid to use more. Part of it is mental, and if you are nervous you’ll be tense and tight regardless. That comes back to the trust thing- if you’ve never done it before, it’s a big deal and choosing to share this with another person makes you feel a plethora of emotions; At first maybe a little nervous and afraid of the unknown territory you’ve yet to explore.
Then, on the other hand, there’s a lot of trust that goes to your partner and in turn, it can translate to excitement and intimacy and a beautiful secret experience between you and another soul.
Krissy, 26
Absolutely not. I’ve never actually done it, just a finger. But I didn’t even like that so I have no interest in anything further. All the guys I’ve been with always want to do it though. Haven’t met a guy that hasn’t asked to do anal yet, and when I do I’m keeping him!
Maiko, 25
One of my grandfather’s sayings is “hit’er in the shitter.”
Personally, when watching porn anal is prettying enticing probably because it’s sort of “taboo”. But, in real life, I’ve only dabbled with a few partners- two of which resulted terribly!
I feel like it’s not for me because while in the act I’m in constant worry that I could be hurting them or something could go south. I’ll leave it to the pros.
Dakota, 27
One thing a lot of people don’t do (perhaps because of porn or a simple lack of info for straight people) is that you obviously need to prepare for it beforehand because obviously, it HURTS at first. But, anal is hot for the most part because of the idea of it, it’s taboo and a bit dirty, which makes it fun.
However, you don’t want to turn yourself off of it completely because your partner all of a sudden tries to penetrate you before you’re ready. By using toys, oral (rimming), finger-play, and DEFINITELY lube, it can also be just as fun of a lead-up to the actual act of anal. Foreplay is just as important in anal!
I’m a fan, but it wasn’t until I had someone do it right that I was willing to experiment. After having a bad experience, I didn’t try for years.
Sam, 26
That is an exit only area.
Cordelia, 25
I haven’t done it….wanted to try it with my ex because I trusted him. I’m super curious and open to it, but only with someone, I trust. Love a good rim job though- receiving obviously, not giving! My ex surprised me once by just starting to do it and it was amazing.
Corey, 24
Anal isn’t really for me- not my speed. If the girl is really into it, I’ll consider a compromise but I’ve yet to meet a girl super into butt stuff. Just not really my thing, I don’t know.
Katie, 26
I can’t say I’ve ever been interested in trying! I don’t think being a nurse has helped! Really all I can think of is the term “exit only” or the number of bacteria involved. Honestly, it just grosses me out.
Mike, 27
Big BIG fan, as long as the ass is reasonably clean and the girl enjoys it. It’s not fun if the girl is in pain.
Brianna, 26
As long as you’re willing and your partner is patient, it can be a ton of fun! And remember lots of lube- coconut oil works GREAT!
Keanu, 26
Personally, I’ve never done it and have a fear of getting poop on my schmeckle. That being said, if a girl enjoys anal play then I don’t mind using tools.
Cora, 25
So, I’m an anal virgin. I’ve had plenty of sexual partners, but most guys had no interest in butt-stuff, so it never progressed that way. I had a guy once tell me that having your hole licked was the greatest pleasure in the world, so of course, I was willing to try it, and…meh. It felt like a warm wet wipe.
I’m a woman and I don’t have a prostate, so I don’t get much pleasure from anal stimulation. I’ve been saving my anal virginity for someone special, or for when my sex life becomes too dry and I need something to spice it up. That time has not come yet.
However, I currently have a partner who enjoys anal play. He has a prostate of course, and I understand and encourage his pleasure. It started small, a bullet vibrator, a small dildo…til finally one day he surprised me with my very first strap-on. I was nervous at first – I’m nearly always the submissive one in the bedroom – but I LOVED it.
The switching of roles is so much fun. I’m a bisexual woman, I’ve had sex with other women before, and I learned then that I love giving pleasure to a partner maybe even more than I do receiving. The strap-on tapped into this for me, and also tapped into my masculine side.
Since I’m still new with the strap-on I have little to no suaveness, I’m still learning the rhythm, and with height differences, we need a lot of pillows to line things up. I’m still learning what makes him tick, but that’s what makes it fun.
Butt-stuff for me, I’ll skip it for now. For him? 10/10, would recommend.
Kevin, 22
I think guys should be more open to trying butt stuff. I think it would be good for guys to get in touch with their more submissive side in the bedroom and let the girl take charge every once in a while. It’s not for everyone, but you can’t find out until you try.
Rodney, 29
Anal is a nice change of pace, but communication is always important when it comes to it.
Kristina, 25
Growing up, there was this stigma around anal intercourse. It seemed as if everyone automatically knew that they would not enjoy this “disgusting” act.
By the time I graduated high school, I was in what would be my first ever relationship, with a girl no less. Entered into life as a sexual adult, I knew I was interested in anal sex, how it worked, and most of all how it felt.
My then partner and I often watched porn together to get ideas on bringing some fun into our bedroom, and anal was definitely not missed from that equation. I believe it was from there that I learned porn’s version of anal reality, and some of the things to take into consideration. We experimented with our strap-on and vibrator. I enjoyed.
As time fast forwarded and I moved into my next relationship with a woman who was definitely comfortable with her sexuality, we were able to experiment together. It was with her that I was given the opportunity to have sex with my first male partner. Anal wasn’t planned with the three of us, but let’s just say it accidentally happened. As we all know, double dipping is a no-no. I was thoroughly pleased and thankful that the accident happened.
I’m now married, and as my wife’s first and only partner, it has been wonderful to explore the journey with her thus far and see her likes and dislikes. I have been fortunate enough to experience anal sex with toys, women, men, and double penetration with toys. I really like to believe that you can’t say you don’t like something if you haven’t tried it. I have tried, and I can definitively say I enjoy anal sex.
Pete, 27
I think anal can be fun, especially when it’s something the girl really enjoys. However, if she’s not into it and doing it begrudgingly with the thought that “guys like this, so I should do this” then that’s no fun for anyone.
Side note: lube, lube, lube.
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